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elizabeth baum's avatar

I think what Patti has to say about other people says WAY more about Patti than anyone she's talking about. I have a lot of mixed feelings about her. Multiple things can be true at once! Here it goes -- (I'm a therapist and I have psychoanalyzed a person I don't know for free! Enjoy)

I saw Patti live in the Sweeney Todd revival back in 2007. She was magical. She has a power and a gift of performing that I will never forget.

On a personal level, if you choose to believe Patti's opinions have power and meaning then they do. If you don't choose to believe that Patti's opinions have power, then they don't. She's just the trigger -- you get to decide what you do with the emotion it brings up.

On one hand, I kind of live for her candor, her forthrightness and her lack of caring for social norms and having to BS about people you don't like for the sake of keeping everyone happy with you. We don't have to like everyone. She speaks her truth bravely and so few people do. I want more truth!

That being said, I ask myself, why is she unnecessarily sharp in her comments? Why is she mean? What drives a person to act that way? While I certainly can't speak for Patti, I can take some guesses.

Guess 1: We tend to criticize areas where we feel insecure. Just because she's a living legend doesn't mean she's not insecure.

Guess 2: We tend to give our opinion without caring what other people think when we are a child. We emotionally tend to act like we are a child when we are what psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson calls an Emotionally Immature Person (EIPs can be mature, successful, amazing, in every other way)

Guess 3: She's in a lot of emotional pain. I don't know the reason. Probably many. When we are in a lot of emotional pain and don't address it, sometimes we cope by making others feel pain. Hurt people hurt people.

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Tony Glover's avatar

Take a stand, Dear Evan. Sh*t or get off the pot, Dear Evan. I hate BS like this. Those initials, BS, also stand for Both-sides-ism. Patti Lupone is White. She is privileged.

Ms. Lupone does not get to belittle Black artists in her field without accountability.

Neither should you avoid taking an unequivocal stance here.

And no, it is not enough that you note the responses of Viola Davis and Audra McDonald as Black artists who publicly took a stance.

What is your stance?

I ask you Evan: Are you afraid that some of the folks you depend upon for cleverly tightwire walking and not taking a stand here might shun you, Dear Evan?

Question for you, Dear Evan: Was Patti at all racist here? Yes or no? This is a binary question. The answer is not "maybe." Not from where I sit. You have two possible answers: 1) Yes; 2) No.

And don't hide behind the avoidance canard: "But I am journalist, I don’t take stances." Journalism includes editorial and/or opinion pieces. You are whomever you choose to be here on Substack. Your subscribers await.

Answer the question, if you will. You might lose and gain subscribers based on your response — either yes or no — to this binary question. And yes — You may even lose and gain subscribers, if you don't answer the question proffered herein. That's the way it goes when you hold yourself accountable to your readers who recognize when anti-Black racism is sourced by White privilege.

I repeat, the question, Dear Evan: Was Patti at all racist here? Yes or no? There is no "maybe" or "perhaps" or "I don’t know," or "I don't have all the facts." Her statements are enough to answer this question either "yes" or "no." What say you, Dear Evan? Care to weigh in and perhaps bite the hand that surely helps to feed you? Willing to starve a bit for your art?

Accountability re Patti's statement does not escape you in the communities with which I claim identity, which include, among others, Black queer, and Black feminist. Each of these communities, and others, await your answer to the question proferred: Was Patti Lupone at all racist here? "Yes?", Dear Evan? "No?", Dear Evan? Some of your readers would like to know.

I repeat: "Sh*t or get off the pot" — Dear Evan.

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